Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Shrink Your Snakes

                         Shrink Your Snakes 
I was coaching one of my clients , she was sharing that one of her main challenge to all her problems was that she was risk averse and loathe to take any action , so she felt demotivated and nervous about any escalation that happened in her office . Did she feel competent enough, Yes! she affirmed But she did not feel she could cope with the problems that might arise .
So I asked her to imagine a snake in the room , and what would her reaction be ? she said she would scream and run and hang on to the fan . she imagined it to be a 5 ft quite heavy , pock marked venomous , lying on the side of the table .
I asked her to imagine that she could shrink the snake .
So she shrunk it to a black thin one lying in the corner a feet long 
Now what would she do? I asked 
She said she would call the gardener and have it removed 
the silence of realization hit us 
How often do we create big snakes in our minds , that it renders us powerless , and incapable  of action depletes our ability to cope . Yet time and time again we have in reality coped with harsher and tougher situations , sudden crisis , unexpected ambiguities , unknown people 
My invitation .. how would it be  if I could shrink my snakes into a manageable perspective? 
How does it make me be , when I do ?

2 comments:

Rajeev Moothedath said...

This is a very thought provoking article.many problems are magnified because of how we perceive them.
with change in perception, we are able to manage easily..Looking forward to more such posts from your pen!

shyleswari said...

Thank You Rajeev. Will certainly write many more articles
look forward to your feedback