Imagine a world where you are not afraid of your boss , when you do not hesitate to speak your mind ... That would amazing.. Right?
I was coaching Naveen last Thursday ..and we discovered this simple technique
Naveen shared that he was often nervous and tongue tied when he went for meetings to his Vice President ..however much he prepared he was found to be lacking and came out disappointed with himself ,and sometimes even demotivated.
As we started our session he shared how as a person he was always ready to honour his commitments to others , he kept his word and mostly managed to complete ninety percent of what he promised. But he rarely adhered to his own commitments .. For two reasons First he thought he would get yelled at , second his image would take a beating .so kept his word , whereas to himself he thought no one would know if he forgot to do what he said he would .He was an Obliger ..a people pleaser,
So we set to work ,I asked him to show me how he conversed with his boss , he stood very timidly ,his hands behind his back , I told him to stand straight and look confident ,to keep his chin up . It matters believe me
If we had to look closely at his fear What would he see ... He said he would be able to see that there was nervousness ,and he was blank mainly
Now look at your fearlessness , how does that look to you .he was quick he said he could see ability to cope , firmness,clarity of thought,a vision,decisiveness,and being present to his boss , wow
How can you bring about all this .?
He noticed that when he spoke he used words like 'maybe' and 'probably 'in almost every sentence .he decided to stop that .
Then he decided to note all the main points that his boss spoke and ask questions about it , he thought if he was a lawyer he would certainly do that
Next he committed to giving a date as to when he would do it
And most importantly decided to shrink his fear into manageable size
The change in voice and tenor was evident, he had already decided to become positive and open to experimenting new behaviour ..
I felt convinced , I was ready to leave him more confident of his competencies
I was coaching Naveen last Thursday ..and we discovered this simple technique
Naveen shared that he was often nervous and tongue tied when he went for meetings to his Vice President ..however much he prepared he was found to be lacking and came out disappointed with himself ,and sometimes even demotivated.
As we started our session he shared how as a person he was always ready to honour his commitments to others , he kept his word and mostly managed to complete ninety percent of what he promised. But he rarely adhered to his own commitments .. For two reasons First he thought he would get yelled at , second his image would take a beating .so kept his word , whereas to himself he thought no one would know if he forgot to do what he said he would .He was an Obliger ..a people pleaser,
So we set to work ,I asked him to show me how he conversed with his boss , he stood very timidly ,his hands behind his back , I told him to stand straight and look confident ,to keep his chin up . It matters believe me
If we had to look closely at his fear What would he see ... He said he would be able to see that there was nervousness ,and he was blank mainly
Now look at your fearlessness , how does that look to you .he was quick he said he could see ability to cope , firmness,clarity of thought,a vision,decisiveness,and being present to his boss , wow
How can you bring about all this .?
He noticed that when he spoke he used words like 'maybe' and 'probably 'in almost every sentence .he decided to stop that .
Then he decided to note all the main points that his boss spoke and ask questions about it , he thought if he was a lawyer he would certainly do that
Next he committed to giving a date as to when he would do it
And most importantly decided to shrink his fear into manageable size
The change in voice and tenor was evident, he had already decided to become positive and open to experimenting new behaviour ..
I felt convinced , I was ready to leave him more confident of his competencies
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